Wife Won't Get a Job

Alright you ready for this one!! me and my wife have been together 5 years now. alittle over a year now i opened my own business and business was great. I was pulling in money quiker then we could spend it. So last year we decided it would be better if she quit her job because then she could help me do the bookeeping and bills at my shop. For the first month she did great then slowly started to almost give up working were i had to reminder her to do this or that now remember it sounds like alot of work but in reality i can do all her work in 1 hour. 4 months ago we decided it was time to move out of my parents house and get a place on our own since she kept saying that things will change wen we have our own place. so i said you no i think we can do this but you are going to need to get a job so we can do this correctly. she agreed comes time to move into our house still no job move in still no job shes watching me loose my sanity because now i have to come up with $5,738.00 a month bet... Read more

Every state’s basic definition of marriage is “equal partners in ALL matters and things”; nothing about LOVE is written. Yet in every relationship there are, unfortunately, expectations. Whether verbalized or even understood, when such are not being met, the relationship WILL break down. As a woman, you men need to realize there’s nothing lazy about being married! A truly lazy woman will NOT have a husband but will enjoy either her monthly welfare check or her boyfriend’s generosity. Get the picture? When you asked her to marry you, surely you had this notion that you'd be providing support—do you think she married you to financially support you? You're going to have a job whether or not you have a wife, so just live within your means—that ought to teach her! This is the worst reason for divorcing out there! The TRUE TRUTH for you husbands is: If you LOVE someone, “it” shouldn’t matter. All you out there who no longer love your wife because she won’t get a job should be asha... Read more

More often I think its that the wife won't give a job that causes friction.

Having a job gives you independence and freedom to make your own decisions as an individual. So, in my opinion both members of the couple should have a job. That would make up a healthier relationship. I am not saying that, if your partner doesn't have a job you have to divorce her/him. But they both have to show interest and willingness to find a job. My reasoning applies for both Wives and Husbands

Depends.... How well does she cook, and how good is the sex.... And of course, there are the kind of guys who think putting their wife on the street is a form of employment counselling.

I think that the women and men should be equal in all things including work and childrearing. My wife just wants to sit at home and read books and watch T.V.. I would rather deal with my kids then the assholes at work. My wife straight told me she doesnt have to get a job. On my Birthday she buys me a present with my money. That is pretty messed up, you know. I work to jobs to make ends meet. I hate that women think that just because they have a vagina they can be lazy.

Its just the two of us. No kids. I make 58k a year but Im still trying to get cought up on old bills. I had to go on bankruptcy last year in order to keep my house (she calls it "our" house LOL) She witness all I was going thru but she wouldnt move a muscle to look for work. All she does is apply for jobs online but its very clear that she has no intentions at all to get a job. I think she want to see how long I'll put up with it. The problem is that Im really beginning to hate her. I know its a strong word, but Im feeling like a fool. when I bring it up she accuses me of starting a fight. And Im busting my rear end working and yet she complains that I dont spend time with her. Its been 5 years of this. Is it time to split?

In today's world a lot of people's identity is tied up with their work/job.  If a woman stays out of the workforce too long, it can really affect her self esteem, and she will eventually blame YOU for it.  I had a stay-at-home mom and really appreciated it, but I know that it's probably not the best option for a modern wife.

Again, finances play a role, but not like abuse can in breaking up a relationship.

I have a 3 year old who is in school til 5:30pm. I have been married 1 year and 2 months my wife has been unemployed 8 of those months and has had 4 different jobs when she was working. While she is home she doesn't clean, refuses to do my laundry then turns around and tells me raising a son is a full time job. In my opinion she barely works part time raising our son while I bust my ass so we can make ends meat. I would be more financially stable paying child support and alimony. I can't take it anymore she's got to go!! It's ashame after I paid for the entire wedding out of my pocket.

The old world guy in me admits; I wish I made enough money to have my wife at home with the kids and or running a business she would like to at home whether it be full or part time. I know it would make her happy, but like many working families, we need two incomes to live our lifestyle and we struggle even then. Man/woman it doesnt matter which, our mates should be a team member. One that knows he/she must help carry the load. If they do not, they are essentially showing you how little the relationship means to them. Your outta here. Just like my x-wife!

I would much rather prefer that the children be in the trusting care of their mother.That is to say given absolute attention,love,care and discipline only a mother can give fairly and justly to her own,that no other,however qualified can replace.The first five years of a child's life is the most crucial for moral education and virtuous beginings,which is so lacking in our society today.I salute these brave women as true heroes,who serve their family and house-hold in silence that their day to day heroics are overlooked,forgotten,and expected...

I personally would prefer to be involved with a woman who has a lot going on and is out there in the working world as a mover and a shaker. However, If the woman Im with decides to be lazy I would grudgingly deal with it as long as Im making decent money and she's not running around charging my CCS.

Remember having one child is the same as working two full time jobs. Depends on the couples situation. I do everything around the house and all the childrearing. The time I get to myself w/out children is when they are in school. That is my catch up time, and getting stuff done time. and my Me time that I never had at all when they were babies. My husband goes to work and comes home and sits on his ass. Its pretty damn fair if you ask me. Now what is going to happen when I someday work? PRetty scary!

Then the husband should get a job.Update: Then again the wife is just lazy. But she could work around the house if she dosen't get a job. That would be helpful. But remember to thank her in the end.

So what if you were 55k in credit card debt, had a wife that contributed to that debt by running a home business into the ground, didn't support you when you got a better job paying more in another city, Won't agree to sell the house event though you are about to lose your job, won't downsize, won't cook and wants to stay at home with a 10 month old. should I go on. This has happened to me, I filed for divorce!

I'm actually more old fashioned than I let on sometimes. If my wife doesn't want to work and stay home with the kids, that's absolutely fine with me. If she wants to work, that's fine. I don't want to be seen as an inhibiting factor in her life. We can always find a way to get by with my salary, no problem really here, I grew up believing that it's a man job to get out there and work.

If she doesn't have to and you've got kids then I can see her not working. (Actually I can see her working very hard raising those kids.) But if you're newly weds without kids then there is no reason why she can't suppliment the income.