Suggesting a 3-some

I made that mistake of taking it to the next level, it was our 3 year anniversary, and lets face it, its pretty much every mans dreams and me and my siggnificant other have always been a notch over that kinky side of the pillow. Well we had talked it over  a million times and it always made me uncomfortable like I wasn't just good enough for him, but he swore over and over he wanted nothing to do with the other girl, he would be content with just watching in a corner, so after much arguement I finally gave in, and one of my absolute best friends for many years decided to help out. I felt comfortable with her because she is full blown all the way man hating lesbian so I knew if he tried anything she'd be the first to meet his mouth with her fist lol. So we went through with it and it was great, sex speaking, she really loved it and so did he. But ever since he's done nothing but "can we do it again, nudge nudge"  So ive regretted it ever since

Whether this is a move forward, backward, sideways or up and down and up and down and up and down, it definately signals a change in the relationship.

Yeah, it will take things to another level, alright, but it may well be a level you didn't expect before you made the suggestion.A suggestion that may result in a huge range of responses, starting with her getting a look on her face that suggests she found a large cat-turd on her favorite lingerie and going all the way up to here breaking out some ropes, harnesses, a gorilla mask and a gallon can of Crisco while flipping you her phone book saying "Call Freddy and Charley, lets not stop with three."

This is very unrespectfull!!! I wouldnt even ever think of doing this!!! If you are with somebody you have to be with them only and no one else!!! You shouldnt even feel like you might want to sleep with somebody else! I would never sleep with anybody but my partner!! Which in my case would be Debbie :)  It is a very bad sign if you are wanting to sleep with somebody else even though you are with some one else! I dont even ever think of sleeping with anybody else!

Hmmmmmm.  I think this would result in my relationship going to a "level" I'd have no interest exploring.  And what if the 3rd party is (shudder!) a dude?

To each their own, but I wouldn't think it would exactly strengthen the relationship. There was a news story in my area of NJ some years ago about a couple that decided to bring another man into the mix to "spice things up." To make a long story short, the wife and the 3rd man were strongly attracted to each other, which didn't sit too well with the husband, who felt excluded and ignored. One day, the husband and the wife had an argument about the situation, and, with an upraised knife, the husband chased the wife down to the town pool, where he stabbed her to death. Not saying this is typical, but underlying jealousy, and other explosive and complicated emotions, should be considered when 2 people contemplate entering such a situation. Another true story- my friend wanted his pretty but timid 1st wife to participate in an orgy with some people he knew (no, I wasn't one of the people; such things are definitely not to my taste). He was reassuring- "I'll be there with you, nothing bad w... Read more

WTF? I guess if you're a swinger it could, but this seems a path to destruction to numbah!

no no, this would not make me want to take a relationship to the next level. I would be more apt to run the other way. sorry to be a prude, just not into that.

Certainly takes it to an all new level of low, but would never take a relationship to the next level. By the time someone felt comfortable enough to suggest this; they would already know how I feel about it. I'd call the whole thing off after this.

Thats not bringing it to the next level to me. Thats like saying, Hey you're great, but I'm bored. I realize for some its a big fantasy, and I'm no prude, but its not something I'd even consider in my marriage. Its different if you're young, single, and sowing your oats, experimenting, etc.

I agree with Vudija! It's the next level of LOW. Sex is supposed to be a thing between two people, not three. It is used to bond.

For some people this might be a good way to end a relationship, or atleast give the other person doubts. Having 3-somes might bring a small amount of people closer, but I really don't think this makes things better for most couples.

I'm not a prude, but if you suggested this with me, I'd want to hope you were joking. If not, I'd suggest you go have a threesome....with your dogs.

Definetely will take you to the next fun level. Probably a step backwards in terms of commitment though.

Do I have to invite the wife?

. . . well, that's a big move to another level, true, but I don't know if it's a step forward, backward, or just kind of sideways. Depends on the couple, but for my situation, if this were seriously suggested to me, it'll push the relationship back quite a bit.

A threesome has the potential for complicating a relationship, but hey, it might be interesting. The relationship will definitely go to the next level, but maybe not towards the commitment stage.

touchy subject depends on who you date. Rather not ones good enough for me.

In my experience and even watching friends and their relationships, this almost always ends the relationship all together...so that would more than likely be your next level==non-existance...

If my girlfriend suggested this, I'd break up with her. Seriously, this would question my committment with her and would leave me wondering what nonsense she might pursue in the future.

Recipe for disaster. Keep this one in the realm of fantasy.

If my mate suggested this, it would get me to thinking ,allright. I would probably think he was bored with me or bored with our relationship. If he said, no, he was happy with me and with our relationship, but just wanted to try something a little different, I would probably think that this guy is a little too racy for me. I would definitely have some misgivings.

Depending on what level you're aiming for, this may or may not be a good idea. This is unfamiliar territory for me, but my wild guess would be that by merely suggesting something like this, you're putting the relationship at serious risk. The upside potential is there, however.

I dont know about this. . .but I assume it takes things to a new level. All I can say is I am DEFINTELY not on that level yet.

This is a level to which only a few dare to tread - and once you've gone there, you can't go back (or so I'm told).