Reasons for turning somebody down for a date

I've never turned anyone down for a date. And not because I was desperate! I really believe in getting to know a person before judging them. Then if you aren't interested, just tell the person you have nothing in common. I'm married now and so glad I don't have to deal with this anymore.

I'd say 4 and a half stars.Hopefully,we're all kind enough not to tell someone they're too fat,boring,ugly or obnoxious for a date.

nope, usually i tell the truth

Well....the truth hurts, so why not? If they are smart they will get the hint.

I'm married

Why hurt feelings when a bald-faced lie will at least save face?

u are just not my type

ha just avoid the person, no need to lie then. Thats my way! I dont really date people. But i might lie.

I hate letting people down.. :(

I'm sorry, Piggy, I already have a date.

I wouldn't know I haven't ever turned anyone down. :D

you mean she didn't have to take her dog to the vet because it ate her shampoo and had a severe allergic reaction?

Yeah, I'm not too good at it. Especially if it entails anything drawn out. I don't like "HAVING" to explain anyway. They should be able to accept "No" for an answer.

im married. Thats my lie.

I am married

i dont like to hurt a girls feelings unless she deserves it, so yaa a lil

This is a situation where if you're a halfway decent person, you have to lie.I always said I was  busy, or if the guy was really pushy, I would tell him I had a boyfriend. I always felt like a real sleaze when I dragged out the boyfriend lie, because usually it was just that: a frickin' lie!

I would never want to hurt someone intentionally so I do try to be gentle, but there have been a few guys who were a little full of themselves and certainly needed to be told that they wouldn't have a shot with me if they were the last man on earth regardless of how good looking they were...the weren't good liking if you know what I mean....

I might tell a little fib...just so i don't hurt the other person's feelings...what can i say..i like to be nice...

Sometimes this is well warranted. After all, people can be scary.

Okay I have lied when telling someone why I didnt want to be their girlfriend..but it was either that or hurt their feelings and I think saying no hurt their feelings enough.

I dont lie cause this usually doesnt happen to me....

It's okay to lie, if the lie is less offensive than the truth. Go for the laugh...

Again you don't want to hurt their feelings unless they are stalking you and then you let them have it .

You're trying to tell me that she wasn't really called by NASA to be on the next Shuttle Launch, aren't you?

it has been a very long time ago.but it was not as if they were beating down the door to date me anyway.I guess i would tell a white lie to not hurt someone's feelings. but like last messenger said it would have been written on my face anyway.I am glad I am not a part of that anymore hubby and I will be married 25 years this April.

Hasn't been a big issue for me, I was usually so desperate for a date that I blurted it out first, then gave the subject of my invitation a list of reasons to decline. Fortunately one of them went out with me anyway.

I don't think I have to, it's written all over my face.

I never lie to someone about this, there is no point in it. If I don't care for the person I just flat tell him...hell no. I am not going to waste my time on someone that I know I would never mesh with and I tell him so. If he cries about it...then he wasn't a real man to begin with...

I've had to. I try not to. I'm all for a bit of tact when it comes to treating a person with decency. I would never want to hurt somebody just because I personally don't think they are appealing enough for me to date again. If they are treating me crappy to begin with, then I might give as much as I get.

You gotta be polite sometimes...

I happen to think this is okay. There is no reason to tell them the real reason if it's going to hurt them. Some people's self-esteem is already so low, they don't need any extra help in that department. Be NICE, it's okay!

Yeah, this happens and unfortunately, it's usually the fault of the person doing the lying.

Im usually honest here but I have lied to a couple of people over the years that would easily had their feelings hurt. They were both people I liked but not wanting to date and I ran into them pretty regularly so I just told them I had other plans. (Ok, beat me if you must)

I've never turned down a date; I have given every person to ask, at least one chance. After that, it was always mutual if a second date would be an option or not, so I never had to worry about turning someone down for a second.

The rare occasion some guy asks me for my number nowadays, I let 'em know I'm married, which is true. But I'm thankful that it oftentimes saves me from the embarassment of letting them know that I wouldn't be interested in them, anyway. It's a lot easier for everyone involved.