infidelity of your spouse/companion

After having gone though this with my ex-husband, I can tell you it's a very horrible experience. It's not the worst thing that can happen to someone, but trust me, it leaves a mark and it's something that takes a lot to get over the hurt and deceit and to learn to trust someone again.

It's not the sex, it's the betrayal of trust and the fabric of deceit. You don't get around that very easily. Trust me on this one.

It was a tough one for me to deal with. I lost some friends that we went out with as a couple and I got the triple play of bad things. We were renting the lower flat at my inlaws so I had to move out, a month later the owner of my company showed up and informed me that the branch I managed was being closed in 6 months. For a little bit I was expecting the plauge of locusts to show up next.

LD relationships often end in shenanigans, but my ex decided she needed cocaine and a guy that already had a kid. I got so mad I couldn't bang my back-up or my house mate for like 15 minutes.

It would kill me. I'd forgive them, but thats cos I'm soft and I always blame myself...Argh. This is why I intend to marry a strong Christian like me.

My husband pal is chesating on his girlfriend who is a friend of mine. The isk part is he is a so called moral example and Fox news addict. He finds no problem betraying her though and they live together. The mistress is a 22 year old black girl and he is a bigoted racist except when it comes to sex I suppose. Total scum! I cant tell her since it would cause a war with my own spouse....sickening to watch.

The absolute worst. It can be like death itself. Irish, you hit the nail on the head.

Why should you care, if they cheat, they cheat. I'd do it too. Just separate/divorce/whatever, we're all adults!

Few things hurt as much as being betrayed by someone you've been devoted to and placed your complete trust in.

Although I have never gone through it; I know how upset I'd be if ever it happened. I put high emphasis on honesty, respect, and loyalty; cheating would break down all of those in one blow for me. I wouldn't even try to salvage a relationship with someone who was so quick to be with someone else; as I wouldn't trust that they wouldn't do it again.

This is tantamount to betrayal. No matter how hard you try, many times, it's really difficult to find the love once again after this.

I can't even describe how awful it is when someone you're supposed to be able to love and trust is unfaithful. It both sucks and blows.

its one of the most painful experiences i have had to experience. i cried for weeks. i didn't get out of bed. i wanted to hide from the world but as each day passed the tears started to dry up and it hurt a little less and i have now began to go on with my life. there is a permanent ache in my heart i can live with.

One of the worst feelings I've had to deal with, it hurts to be betrayed by someone who you've put the most trust into. Five or six years ago, I would have rated this a "5" easily. But, the fact that I've eventually gotten over it and found someone to love makes the rating a "4" instead of a "5".

I don't know how I would respond if my wife were to cheat on me. One feeling I would have would be to rip her head off and never see her again, while I would also have a hard time living my life without her. I imagine that this experience would be a roller coaster of conflicting emotions, and that the healing around this experience would take a lot of time.

This happened to me once. It was a girl who I had been dating for several years. I was more shocked than anything else. I simply couldn't believe a woman would cheat on me. Quite frankly, however, I was rather impressed by her. Why? She admitted it/brought it to my attention. I didn't suspect and would have never guessed that it had happened in a million years. She told me out of respect. Since it was a one-time incident I forgave her and we were together for another year or so.