Hardly talk at all
Approval Rate: 64%
Reviews 28
by twansalem
Wed Mar 23 2011As other reviewers have alluded to, it's probably more about knowing how to pick your spot than it is about not saying anything at all. For example, if I'm taking a class that requires a fair amount of participation, I prefer to answer one question in fairly extensive detail, and then to just shut up for the rest of the class. That way the professor knows I've done the readings or assignments and have thought about it, but I'm not just butting in with pointless comments to get participation points.
by canadasucks
Tue Mar 22 2011Underrated. My opponents will disagree, but I've gotten just as much with silence as with noise. . . An old boss gave me some sage advice I never forgot - "There is a point in any negotiation when the next person who speaks loses." And I always look out for that point. . .
by irishgit
Tue Mar 22 2011It works.
by abichara
Tue Mar 22 2011Many times, its knowing how and when to say something. Sometimes, a short, pithy remark will do. Other times, more elaboration might be needed. Sometimes saying nothing is the best route. Especially when you don't know what the heck you're talking about.
by frankswildyear_s
Tue Mar 22 2011I thought I'd check in for abichara's thoughts on this item.
by broodinghen
Tue Mar 22 2011Be careful. Some fellow-earthlings may be easily deceived. For a lot of others you must have an intelligent expression on your face while you remain silent if you do not want to go for a blockhead. An intelligent countenance may be hard to produce and still harder to keep.
by djahuti
Mon Mar 21 2011There's a lot to be said for keeping your mouth shut,especially if you don't know what you're talking about.Sooner or later,though,you will nod at something stupid said by another and give yourself away.
by numbah16tdhaha
Mon Mar 21 2011I see this working for morons, but if you're halfway smart it could make you look like you don't know anything.
by twitchin_monkey
Mon Mar 03 2008sometimes it's best to let everyone else wear out the arguments. once they shut up, and have said all they can say, then share your opinion. but it helps if it's at least somewhat perceptive.i once had a professor tell the rest of the class to shut up and listen to me. he said "mr. johnson always has something profound to add, but he never says it because you all won't shut up." i was shocked... so apparently this plan works... haha
by excelsior30
Mon Mar 03 2008You will have to say what you think eventually, but should you already know stuff, go ahead and be unsociable. I do agree that it can backfire, but if it's not important in a group talk, then it can work.
by misspackrat4je_sus
Tue Sep 18 2007"Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive." -- Proverbs 17:28
by ladyjesusfan77_7
Sat Mar 17 2007Sometimes it's best to say only what you have to say, and no more. As the old saying goes "Open mouth, insert foot!"
by victor83
Sat Mar 17 2007I have nothing to say on this.
by samjung23
Thu Apr 13 2006This is a great one, and it works every time. However, it can backfire and work against you when people expect you to talk. In that case, then just let loose, but don't let your true feelings be known. This can work wonders. However, if you are very goal-oriented, this can be maddening.
by dumbblondecowg_irl
Thu Apr 13 2006It works until you open your mouth. If you spend all that time being quiet,your words better be something well thought out and intelligent. Or else you'll just embarrass yourself. I've seen it happen.
by bird808
Wed Apr 12 2006Still waters run deep. You learn a lot more listening and observing than you do with your ears closed and mouth open.
by kattwoman
Wed Apr 12 2006how do you expect to get any smarter if you don't shut up long enough to listen and learn. you could kill 2 birds with one stone.
by jamestkirk
Thu Apr 06 2006Sometimes a good thing for those who must listen.
by historyfan
Wed Apr 05 2006It's best to be humble about your intellect.
by blueorchid
Tue Apr 04 2006That's what I do sometimes. Everyone in high school always thought I was the brainy girl.
by eschewobfuscat_ion
Tue Apr 04 2006Lincoln has been credited (legitimately or not) with the quotation, "better to keep silent and be thought a fool than to break one's silence and remove all doubt. "
by frogio
Mon Apr 03 2006Er, yeah.
by souljunkie
Mon Apr 03 2006My son is somewhat like this and he is very intelligent. But I dont claim this to be the rule. Smart maybe but probably just introverted, insecure or a mixture of both.
by jed1000
Mon Apr 03 2006You have to know how to do it convincingly as saying nothing at all could have the very opposite effect. As Donovan and earthbound point out... you need to show some signs of life every few minutes to indicate that you're keeping up.
by donovan
Mon Apr 03 2006This works well as long as every 5 seconds you say.... "exactly"
by molfan
Mon Apr 03 2006that would be good. just look like you understand everything the other persons are saying. too bad some are the opposite and have to ramble on about everything and prove they are not so smart.
by castlebee
Mon Apr 03 2006Sure it can be faked for awhile. But, most people who speak only when they have something to say are spending the rest of the time listening and observing. So, many of them don't have pretend they're smart since it tends to work out that they actually are.
by earthbound
Sun Apr 02 2006I also taught myself to wiggle each eyebrow independently of the other, which makes you seem deep and perceptive if you time it right and add a 'hmm..'.