A death in the family

I am sure this would be tragic. The only one close to me in my family who passed away was my grandmother on my Dad's side, but it wasn't sudden. Today, one of my father's best friends, who was around since I was a child passed away. The man had 30 years sober and recently attended my wedding. During my own struggles I thought of him, and how he turned his life around. I hadn't seen him in at least ten years, possibly 15 but just three weeks ago I had a chance to shake his hand, and thank him for setting a good example to me, and talk about how blessed both of us have been. To hear about his sudden death after speaking with my family about him just earlier today brings tears to my eyes but I am very, very grateful I had a chance to speak with this man one last time.

I have experienced death in the family, and it is not fun to go through, at all. It is a very sad and lonely time, even when a person has others around them. I have a tendency to just want to be alone and gather my thoughts when things like this happen. I appreciate when people want to rally around, but when a person is hurting on the inside, it's very hard to see the love and support at the time. Some people understand, and others don't. I guess it's all in the way people view things.

awful if it is someone you are close to. especially when there is almost no warning.maybe no chance to say goodbye, or plan for a funeral. especially horrible if it is someone's child.or a parent who still has children growing up. so many examples.it most cases it could be a greatest horrible thing can happen unless it is a relative you were not that close to.

Though i've never had a sudden death i the familly to anyone I was really close to some of my dads close relatives have died but I only met them once or was to young when they died and I didn't really understand what had happened and though I was sad I cant say it was a huge hit to me. But my moms father has recently gotten alzheimers diesease and it's sad to see someone who you've known all your life to be wasting away like that constantly getting frusrated because he cant remember what to say or what he was doing and seeing people treat him like a child.

I suppose my family must be some courteous motherfuckers in how we die of late, because to this point we haven't had to bury any of them when we weren't expecting to during my time on the clock. Hell, the last two I can recall were great grandma (yes, that was a great) who made 98 despite being oblivious to the world around for her last decade on the mortal coil, and gramps making it into his 80s and shuffling around without a good portion of his mind thanks to a stroke. Damn, we some long living fucks these days. I had another grandma and an uncle die around the time I was born, though. Cancer on the grandma and an unsolved murder on the uncle, and I guess that wasn't easy for my mom. Closest I've come to that was one of my jarhead buddies meeting his maker in Iraq and that's still not that close, even though Crunch and I had some laughs in Okinawa.

This might suck for your family, but for mine it equates to an extra pork chop at Thanksgiving. Now if only Uncle Ed would stop dry humping the patio furniture and keel over, I might be able to work on my tan. I just hope death isn't sudden for me. I wanna be able to slowly slip into that wonderful journey of dementia - delerious as hell, young until the end, completly forgeting life's bullsh**. It sure beats ending it by screaming "F**K!!!!" as you fall off the roof while putting up those lousy Christmas lights.

This sucks. A lot. And if its sudden, it seems to be worse because there was no mental preparation.

The absolute worst!  The shock of the loss of one of your own people is very great and takes forever to get over no matter what the circumstance.

The worst day of my life was when my Dad died three years ago. I think of him every day & I always will.

Nothing could be worse. The unexpected death can be devastating. I have a real fear of death and of losing anyone close to me. Nobody is ever really prepared for someone to die and I don't think it lessens the pain. The fact that you learn to go on with your life seems inconceivable but people do it every day.

This can bring your world crashing down around you pretty fast.Especially if it's totally unexpected.

i was 13 years old when my 22 year old uncle drowned. it was devastating to our whole family and still affects us to today. there are so many things left unsaid when the death comes suddenly.

One of the worst things if it's a sudden loss. Something that's very hard to deal with.

This is the worst on the list, especially if it is sudden.

Death is always hard to deal with, time does indeed heal the initial sting but it still comes back at varying times to vex you, but the happy memories come easier too. Having a loved one who has had a terminal illness that ended in death can be taxing and difficult, but a sudden unexpected death is like being thrown against a concrete wall, nothing can prepare you for this, it is devastating, especially when there may have been things that were left unsaid. Truly the worst.

Any kind of death is always very traumatic, but a sudden one even more so. It doesn't matter whether the death is precipitous or dragged out; the death itself always leaves a hole. Suddenness makes for greater unpredictability, for in such situations the family never even got a chance to prepare. There's always a feeling afterwards of 'what now?' that's inescapable no matter how well adjusted one is with regards to their attitudes about death.

The list title talks about sudden so I assume we're not talking about the expected death of an aged or infirm relative. A car accident, heart-attack, or other unexpected demise of someone close can be pretty traumatic, be it in the family or a close friend. Tough to get over.