Verbal/Mental Abuse

i think you all are just stupid people and should be cleansed in the fire!!! :P i just called everyone a biotch and a dumbass and be like awe cum on just have sex with me!! then we bang! HARD! :p

Can be worse than physical

I have no police reports, no ER visits, no physical scars.  I cannot get certain kinds of insurance now because I have been an inpatient at a psychiatric hospital.  Days after I told my family I was leaving him, they told me they felt glad to finally get their daughter/sister back, because they had missed me. People on the outside could not believe we divorced because we were "such a great couple."  Mental abuse can cause you to arrive at a place that is very, very lonely, and it should be taken every bit as seriously as physical abuse.  It can bring about the end of your life while leaving the shell of the person you used to be still walking around breathing.  If you find yourself reading this section and understanding it, you are not alone.  Go get help.  Then hire a lawyer.

Love does not hurt; in any way, shape or form!

I don't think "great" is the right word. But sure, you should be able to do more than divorce someone who mentally abuses you.

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This can hurt more than a slap or punch ever will. If this is happening to you, get out.

I noticed that the then-wife's verbal abuse was slowly but surely morphing into physical abuse (of me, not the kids, thank God).

The occasional slip during an arguement, although disrespectful is probably fairly common. If we're talking about someone, who for no other reason than to be an ass, calls you names; it isn't even worth it. Most people do not change from that...

This shows complete lack of respect and support for the partner. It is just as bad  (if not worse) as physical abuse without contact being made.

Regular psychological pain and suffering is more cruel than physical abuse and a more calculated form of inhumanity. This sort of abuse seeks to rob the other person of their very self-worth and sanity. I believe in any marriage, counselling and attempts to work through differences should come before divorce. That said, if someone is not willing to change then something must be done. There are some situations that have no other solution than divorce.

Sometimes mental abuse is worse than physical one. Words carry so much power and strength that sometimes they wound deeper and sharper.We need to think before we act.

DON'T allow anyone to ever abuse you in any way. Verbal/Mental abuse can have very long lasting negative affects on your life and affect your future relationships. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. We are all EQUAL & deserve to be treated with the utmost respect always! It's better to leave than to let it affect not only your life but more importantly, the lives of your children who are witnessing the abuse.

I have never met a woman who can stop herself from cussing at me when she gets angry enough. Even though I have layed ground rules in this area in both my longest relationships. I think women tend to "go there" ultimately because they cannot hit you...so the next most hurtful thing is to verbally bash. Then they get madder when you walk away, again because they want the satisfaction they are looking for. In my experience it did not matter how intelligent or stupid the lady was, they will vent this way if they get angry enough. Maybe I bring out the worst in some, but I could not have done that to every single one. You curse at me, and I walk away until the anger is defused, but I dont divorce over it. I guess i just expect that kind of emotional outbreak from women. Sorry ladies...just my truth. If one does divorce over this, I probably could not blame him/her.

I am actually in a mentally abusive relationship right now. It took me awhile to realize in fact thats what it was. Each time things went bad or things where said to me I felt that I had to have said or done something wrong to make this happen to me. My husband and I actually seperated for about 4 months then we ended up back together. Now after a couple of months of being back together things are happening all over again. We have two children together so its really tough to accept that things will never change. I have kept hanging on with hopes of change and hopes that he would see that this isnt healthy and not the way to treat your wife. But, with each passing day it gets harder to believe that he will ever realize what he is doing to our family. I am not sure how much more I can take before I leave and file for a divorce. I dont wish this life for my children or myself. I would only hope that one day he see's what I mean and how things could have been different ... I have taken a ... Read more

i lived it for 24 years too long. let me tell you from experience it takes a tremendous toll on you mentally and physically. it is just as painful if not more than physical abuse because these wounds never heal.

This could probably be just as bad as physical abuse. Why be miserable? Seems like a good reason to get divorced to me.

Just as bad as physical abuse, sometimes worse. It can stay with a person the rest of thier lives.

This form of abuse has extreme implications, suggesting an absence of respect and a consequent lack of trust, among a lack of other fundamental qualities that serve as pillars to uphold a marriage. If so much has clearly gone awry, then what truly is the marriage based on? If not divorce, counseling is in order to resolve the arising conflicts. No one deserves to be subjected to continual degradation and deterioration of their self esteem and self worth. Much less so, no one deserves to have their freedom and rights impeded on by their spouses: no one deserves to have their spouses threaten their safety, manipulate their social lives and insult their family and culture, and no one deserves to live in the chronic fear that is born in abusive relationships.

This is definately a good reason to get divorced. If your spouse is being evil enough to tear at you every single day, make you lose your confidence, question yourself, upset you, scare you - then yes, leave the person that claims to love you.

It's definitly not nice, but since sometimes it's not worth the divorce I'll take off a star.

This is just as bad,and just as unacceptable,as physical abuse.It is,however,harder to define.I'm not talking about an argument-those are normal.This is deliberate psychological or emotional harm being inflicted in a calculating manner.

Sometimes what appears to be mental abuse is a reaction to a cause-effect state. Once a marriage is in discord, two parties are apt to cut each other off at the legs in very subversive ways, leading one partner to claim emotional abuse.

more selfishness

This could sometimes be worse than physical abuse. Why stay with someone who tries to control and dominate you all the time. We all have enough problems in our lives, we don't need our spouses making things worse.

Could physical abuse be any worse than this? I think not. It's just not as easy to prosecute for. It's another form of control.